If their was one thing that could be held responsible for most peoples failures in life, it would be how and with who they choose to spend their life with.
Addiction is real, we have the ability to get addicted to anything and everything, from addiction to food types and exercise to alcohol and drugs. We tend to recognise when we have an addiction problem by trying to avoid the issue or correct it, for instance going on a diet for a food addiction. You can go to rehab for drug and alcohol addiction, but where we fail miserably is recognising that we can be addicted to the person most closest to us.
For many years we have been running clinics primarily for clients who believe they have issues with their weight, so they come in, sit down on the couch and within a very sort time it is clear that the problem is not what they are eating or when they are eating it is WHY they are eating. Everyone wants to be fit and healthy, but more importantly all human beings only want two things in life, one is to avoid conflict and the other is to be happy and when we fail to achieve these basic needs we look elsewhere for imagined satisfaction, whether that be in the cupboard for a chocolate bar or reach for the bottle of wine to drown their sorrows, as the saying goes.
The other half
So lets talk about our significant others and how they impact our lives.Starting at the beginning we have the honeymoon period, all is great we go out of our way to please our partners and by making them happy makes us happy. Slowly over the months and years two lives become entwined with you picking up some of their behaviours and visa versa, the trouble is of course is that not all of these behaviours are fabulously positive ones and the troubles begin. We get into spirals of discontent with negative behaviours making us unhappy and therefore causing conflict either with your partner or with yourself. We become addicted to this cycle, I’m sure you have heard of the saying that ‘I can’t live with them but I can’t live without them.’ Now we are not writing about upping sticks and running off into the sunset on your own, this is more about rebalancing your life, becoming more grateful for what you have and where you are because you will easily find that if you value where you are suddenly where you are will have more value. This is about smiling more, understanding what you can and can’t change in life and becoming more fulfilled. When we stop stressing about others and focus more on ourselves stress will start to remove it self from life.
Life is made up of choices and the choices we make will determine how our life pans out. Each and everyday we can choose to be happy we can set our own moods, we can decide that we want to be positive or we can choose to be negative,. its a choice. When you open your eyes in the morning smile, even if you don’t feel like it, just smile and embrace the day ahead.
Relationships are addictive but make it a good addiction, be mindful of your needs and their needs, break the old negative habits and routines, say different things to each other as opposed to having the same conversations that you have every day .Become mindful, remember yesterday is no longer real, now is real… embrace it!
So why do people who are together start drifting apart? One the reasons for this is that the future holds no goals, as human beings we strive to achieve things, it doesn’t have to massive, it could be planning a holiday or decorating a room, even going shopping or doing the garden together, without goals in our lives, life can become very mundane. Our programs and membership are all about building a happier future and helping clients achieve their goals. Its easy when you have a formula and a set of rules. We give you the rules and set you on the right tracks. Smile, relax and be happy.